A Morning Cup of Tea: Concerning Marriage and Divorce

Good Friday morning to you! Are you winding down the work week and readying for a relaxing weekend with the family? It's going to be a quiet one for us. This is the middle of my husband's work week this time around, as he is working nights. Because he has 12 hour shifts on weekends, we will stick close to home, probably venturing out for groceries and Worship on Sunday morning.
 Today we begin chapter 10 of Mark. Jesus and his disciples are in Judea, and the Pharisees there are there once again to test Jesus on his knowledge of the law. Is it lawful for a man to put away (divorce) his wife? they asked.
  Jesus answered by asking, what did Moses command you? Of course, they answered that Moses allowed them to simply write her a letter of divorcement, and that would be the end of it.
 This is what Jesus has to say on the subject of marriage and divorce. The next few verses are straight from the King James bible. My opinion is nowhere in this, except to say that I whole heartedly agree, because Jesus said it and in my mind that settles it.
 5.And Jesus answered and said unto them, For the hardness of your heart he wrote you this precept.
 6. But from the beginning of the creation God made them male and female.
 7. For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and cleave to his wife:
 8. And they twain shall be one flesh: so then they are no more twain, but one flesh.
 9. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.
 In the home at which they were staying, the disciples asked Jesus again about divorce.
 11. And he saith unto them, Whosoever shall put away his wife, and marry another, committeth adultery against her.
 12. And if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she committeth adultery.
 We know in Matthew Jesus said the only reason for divorce where remarriage would not be a sin is fornication. The one who was wronged would be free to divorce and remarry, if he or she so desired. 
  These days, as then apparently, people get divorced simply because they "fall out of love". Or their straying eye finds someone new they would rather be with. Love shouldn't be so fickle. Love takes work, folks! It is a decision that must be made, continuing to choose to love him despite his faults. After all, we have our own faults that they put up with. The point is to work through them, and with your husband, not to push away from him.
 Are there other reasons to divorce? Yes, I think so. If the husband or wife is abusive, there is no reason to stay in the same house with that person. It is better to get out. Instead of looking to marry another though, in that case I would continue praying for my husband --from the safety of another home. 
 The bottom line is we should not take marriage so lightly. In today's society some refuse to marry at all, because they do not wish to make the commitment. If it doesnt work out, they say, all they need to do is leave. And some marry with the same throw away concept: "If it doesn't work out we can always get a divorce." In both cases there are usually children involved. No, it isnt better for the child to have two separate houses to call home. That is a cop out. It is better for the child and the marriage to try and work things out. Don't let the weeds of discontent take root in your marriage. Nurture it and care for it like any other precious item in your life. You will be rewarded many times over.  

Good Friday morning to you! Are you winding down the work week and readying for a relaxing weekend with the family? It's going to be a quiet one for us. This is the middle of my husband's work week this time around, as he is working nights. Because he has 12 hour shifts on weekends, we will stick close to home, probably venturing out for groceries and Worship on Sunday morning.
 Today we begin chapter 10 of Mark. Jesus and his disciples are in Judea, and the Pharisees there are there once again to test Jesus on his knowledge of the law. Is it lawful for a man to put away (divorce) his wife? they asked.
  Jesus answered by asking, what did Moses command you? Of course, they answered that Moses allowed them to simply write her a letter of divorcement, and that would be the end of it.
 This is what Jesus has to say on the subject of marriage and divorce. The next few verses are straight from the King James bible. My opinion is nowhere in this, except to say that I whole heartedly agree, because Jesus said it and in my mind that settles it.
 5.And Jesus answered and said unto them, For the hardness of your heart he wrote you this precept.
 6. But from the beginning of the creation God made them male and female.
 7. For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and cleave to his wife:
 8. And they twain shall be one flesh: so then they are no more twain, but one flesh.
 9. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.
 In the home at which they were staying, the disciples asked Jesus again about divorce.
 11. And he saith unto them, Whosoever shall put away his wife, and marry another, committeth adultery against her.
 12. And if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she committeth adultery.
 We know in Matthew Jesus said the only reason for divorce where remarriage would not be a sin is fornication. The one who was wronged would be free to divorce and remarry, if he or she so desired. 
  These days, as then apparently, people get divorced simply because they "fall out of love". Or their straying eye finds someone new they would rather be with. Love shouldn't be so fickle. Love takes work, folks! It is a decision that must be made, continuing to choose to love him despite his faults. After all, we have our own faults that they put up with. The point is to work through them, and with your husband, not to push away from him.
 Are there other reasons to divorce? Yes, I think so. If the husband or wife is abusive, there is no reason to stay in the same house with that person. It is better to get out. Instead of looking to marry another though, in that case I would continue praying for my husband --from the safety of another home. 
 The bottom line is we should not take marriage so lightly. In today's society some refuse to marry at all, because they do not wish to make the commitment. If it doesnt work out, they say, all they need to do is leave. And some marry with the same throw away concept: "If it doesn't work out we can always get a divorce." In both cases there are usually children involved. No, it isnt better for the child to have two separate houses to call home. That is a cop out. It is better for the child and the marriage to try and work things out. Don't let the weeds of discontent take root in your marriage. Nurture it and care for it like any other precious item in your life. You will be rewarded many times over.